The Infinite Moment
February 16, 2010
“I need to find a way to stretch the moment,” Anjie said to my wife and I, “so that I have time to think before I speak”.
Anjie stayed with us for a week in January, in preparation for relaunching her life. She wanted us to show her how to stop judging. It was a bit of a tall order. Not that she was a problem – far from it – she was so wanting to change her perspective on life. The tricky part was in changing her habit of listening from the past.
Her experience of people was to expect the worst, to engage their personality, and then keep them at a distance so they couldn’t upset her. We helped her to revisit some key moments with certain people so that she could assess what they were really saying to her. And we had her realise that she could choose what to see in them and how to engage with them differently. It was important for her to get that she could cultivate greatness in others, for if she could do that then they could be aware of living their greatness.
It’s just a memory now but there was a time when I was so caught up in the energy of opposing thoughts, that I would vigorously defend my position to be heard and not really hear what was being said to me. My position? I don’t think that I cared very much about having a position. It was more like I was trying to release the unbounded power inside me.
So I understood what Anjie was dealing with. We would talk about someone that she disliked and then boom – there would be an explosion of what she thought about that person, all stored up, and nothing of what she said was really true. It was all perception delivered from a place of frustration.
Listening to Anjie had me realise just how powerful we are. Storing up energy and generating emotion so that it comes out as an explosive force is a stunning thing to achieve but it does have physical consequences. Your body is continually tensed; you become sensitive to certain vibrations (e.g. felt as criticism), and you are ready to respond without care or consideration or awareness. There is no measure anymore of what is true or false.
So we created a time gap for her to play in. In this time gap she could hear what was being said without needing to respond. She could be reflective and assess whether a person was being true with her, get to understand their perspective, and then decide what action she would take. Her body could relax and she could be in tune with it.
We called it ‘the infinite moment’. In that moment, an understanding of who people truly are emerges. We see where others are in relation to their energy – whether they are expansive or contained; whether they are being true and in the moment, or following the patterns of past experiences.
As we live from that place, we can discover what sort of reality we really do wish for others.
Try it. Be present with yourself, neither seeking the future nor the past. Expand yourself in this infinite moment, disregarding all thoughts of time and space, of who we might be as physical beings. Connect to the music of life and create a reality, where what you see is boldness and magnificence impressed in every being, and what you hear is the fire of life whispering within your veins.
What is it you hear? … “Live,” it says,
“Live the impossible, do the unimaginable, and encourage the limitlessness.”
There are no finer gifts to give.
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I appreciate you so much, Santari. I nominated you for this award
http://lifeblazing.com/2010/02/27/circle-of-friends-award/
Hugs,
Erika